As a life coach and therapist, my job is to get people to overcome blocks from the past and create a map to their future.  People come for coaching when they want something better for themselves.

Better relationships

Improved health

More wealth and happiness

Some have a specific goal they want to reach.  Others don’t know what they want, they just know their current life is not it.

So, they decide to do something about it.

They talk through the issues; we make goals and they have access to a whole host of tools and strategies to get them the outcomes they desire.

Yet still, some struggle to implement the plan.

Because their own psychology is in the way.

Mindset is one of the biggest hurdles to deal with for any goal to be achieved.  Perfectionism is often the fly in the ointment that leads to self-sabotage and procrastination.

There’s one strategy that I’ve found works a few wonders when it’s suggested to clients.  It involves taking the eye of the end goal and making ‘action’ the strategic focus.  This involves a new perspective on goal attainment.  We take our eyes off the end result and agree that…

Action Is The New Perfection

Instead of relentlessly focusing on the goal and failing at every turn, it’s sometimes better to focus on progress that can be made here and now.

When we have our sights set on a big dream, it can become overwhelming and then the psychological blocks go up and the mind says, ‘There’s no way you can achieve that’.

The result?  You make the big goal an excuse to fail.

But how does it work if you focus on action instead of perfection?

Well just say you are a new business and you decide your first goal is a 5-figure monthly income.  You put the $10,000 on the vision board and set out to make it a reality.

Now if you’re not used to earning that kind of money as a self-employed person, then the mind can find it difficult to know what to do about it.

But let’s just say you stopped focusing on the figure and started focusing on ACTIONS instead.

That might look something like this:

  1. Write a 5-email sequence
  2. Make a free giveaway to get subscribers for your list
  3. Promote your freebie on Facebook until you get 500 subscribers (if it doesn’t work, get feedback about the content and tweak it and try it out again).

Now the dream of 10,000 dollars a month is still there on the plan, but it’s no longer the focus.

Now the focus is on the daily steps you need to take to make progress TOWARDS the end goal, and it’s much easier to make progress achieveable.

This works for several reasons:

  • The mind can understand the concrete steps it has to take
  • Every action moves you towards the goal in a realistic way
  • There’s no overwhelm involved that will make the mind shut down
  • Perfectionism doesn’t take hold because the plan allows for tweaks and changes
  • Little wins along the way keep the mind feeling safe

Because it’s the ‘safety seeking mind’ that we need to keep happy.  If it feels out of its depth it will shut down and cause issues.

It’ll start judging everything you do because it’s scared that your freebie will be scoffed at.

It’ll start making you procrastinate because it doesn’t think you’re worth 10,000 dollars.

It’ll sabotage you at every turn, because it fears the responsibility that comes with success.

If you have beliefs about self-worth or your ability to achieve, then the mind is going to throw a spanner in the works at every turn.

It’s better to make the actions the new goal, not the big audacious dream that will have the safety mind screaming.

Here are some other examples…

1.You want to lose 20 kilos. You have your ideal weight on the plan where you can see it.  Then you forget about that and focus on the daily or hourly actions to take, that are achievable right now.  That means shopping for healthy food…now.  That means getting out of the door to the gym…now.  That means watching a motivational video…. now.

All of those steps one by one, will create the vehicle that gets you to the end goal.  The mind doesn’t get a chance to come in and tell you that 20 kilos is too hard to achieve.  Because you just have mini goals and actions to carry out.

2. You want to find a relationship. You write down the goal of finding your soulmate.  Then forget about the soulmate and focus on the tasks to be done now.  That might mean arranging more social outings, joining a dating agency, improving your communication skills and reading a book about dating techniques.

All of those steps one by one, will create the vehicle that gets you to the goal.  Now admittedly, finding a relationship involves a lot of external factors, that might be out of your control.  But at least you’re doing your bit to help things along.

 The benefits of making action the goal

You’ll also stay more motivated and inspired, because every time youo take ACTION, you get to celebrate along the way.

  • Making the action the focus, lets your self-belief grow and you’ll become more confident in your ability to reach the bigger dreams in life.
  • Perfectionism doesn’t get a chance to creep in, because you’re now judging yourself on the fact that you DID WHAT YOU WERE SUPPOSED TO DO in that moment, even if the end result is not here yet.
  • If you falter during the action phase, it’s easier to get back up and see it as feedback instead of failure.  If you don’t go to the gym one day, your perfectionism can’t step in and say, ‘There you go, you can’t lose 40 kilos because it’s too hard’.  Instead you say, ‘I didn’t go the gym today, let’s look at what happened and fix it, so I can ensure I go next time’.

You might be amazed at the results you get when you bypass the ‘end goal overwhelm’, and keep focused on the smaller actions along the way.

Little actions, little tweaks.

Go try it out.

When you approach a goal this way, the big dream will take care of itself.

To your success.

Linda B X

Linda Bebbington is a psychotherapist & life coach, specialising in wellness and anxiety issues.  She’s the creator of ‘Hypno-Fit’, ‘The Confidence Code’ and ‘Dear Therapist’…which help you take charge of your own life and happiness.

If you need help to heal or to build a bright & healthy future you can book a free 30 minute consultation HERE

Linda Bebbington is a psychotherapist & life coach, specialising in wellness and anxiety issues.  She’s the creator of ‘Hypno-Fit’, ‘The Confidence Code’ and ‘Dear Therapist’…which help you take charge of your own life and happiness.

If you need help to heal or to build a bright & healthy future you can book a free 30 minute consultation HERE

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